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Ridding children of their psychological disorders, altering their behavior, and changing their habits are complex matters – and they are so in view of the wide differences between children with regard to their responding to the same therapy; we educators are also diverse with regard to our culture and situations. From this we go on to say that educational guidance can work well with a certain child, but not with another. I am often consulted about children’s problems, and I do give my advice: but I am sometimes surprised to hear that the inquirer has actually tried the same method I was suggesting, not only once, but frequently: some say that their child’s condition actually deteriorated rather than improved after applying the recommended method. Therefore, it is crucial that we have more than one approach in store for dealing with any problem; for we may need to try all the methods to help the child get rid of his/her trouble, from which they suffer, and maybe the family suffers as well.

Endangering the smooth running of its affairs, in relation to its vision, moral values, conducts, inter-relationship, and interests. It is believed that clear apprehension of the drifts and trajectories along which a family should tread would provide the uttermost and worthwhile rectitude and success expected of a Muslim family, as it would also provide an appreciable and remarkable definition for the methodologies and techniques that are necessary for parents to adopt in their children’s upbringing.

It would be noticed that we, individual families and societies, are faced with the problem of how to relate with the overwhelming modern cultures that have been vigorously streamed on us from all nooks and crannies of the world. Moreover, in reality this problem is no more of relationship or management, the effect of those alien cultures has grown to being capable of causing a lot differences among people in our community, in relation to their manners, general practices and traditions, which are the main points of contest.

Also, Muslims generally are faced with the problem of illiteracy, poverty, and unemployment. Even among those who work, a large percentage of them engage in hard corporal jobs.

Consequently, all these have affected the level of attention the parents pay to their families, in terms of planning their family lives and projecting for the upbringing and future of their children. This makes it necessary for us to continue to discuss and write on the matter of child upbringing, as that is the only way out for us. And this is the aim of writing this book.

Here is the city of palm dates and lively hearts; here lives his heart. It is his place, his city, his people. It is the city in which everything came alight when he arrived. Its people and its very nature loved him. Here is Mount Uhud with which he had a relation of mutual love. These narrow alleyways will recognize his footsteps.

Here will be his mosque and adjacent to it will be his small rooms.

But here in the mosque will also gather a great band of men, eager to follow him and do his bidding. With them he will have a pure relation of mutual love. He is always with them; but his special relation is with God…We will look at Prophet Muhammad’s management of his day, hour by hour, to gain an insight into the simplicity of his great life, the spontaneity of his serious life, the perfect balance between his activities and the fulfillment of complementary needs.

This book seeks to guide and make ease to the grieving and despondent souls who are in a quagmire of vexation in a manner that varies from other typical motivational books that discusses on worry, sadness and grief; and from those which discuss fortune (or success). It addresses to the endogenous core of the heart and soul, correlating it with Faith, showing and making distinct of what the aspects of Faith has to do with a person’s well-being. It removes the obscurities and perplexities that binds the heart and soul of many of the children of Islam. Those whom Shaytan invites to wretchedness, sin, despair, grief and hopelessness in the Mercy of Allah.

Abdullah bin Sa’eed Safar Al-Husnee Az-Zahranee captures 40 ways to dispel and eradicate sorrow and grief and to gain a happy and pleasant living. It explains how you adjust in difficult situations so that you hand out to us from it flower, rose and jasmine!

Let me say, with full conviction, that there is no chance for us, nor for any nation, to occupy a respectable place among the advanced nations without raising our cultural awareness – we are living in the age of knowledge, and we cannot do without information and books. Therefore, raising children who are really fond of reading is our first and foremost challenge – and it will take all our commitment to succeed there. Having this in mind I propose to tackle this issue in a book; and, as in the previous volumes in the series, I try to come upon solutions for the difficult dilemma – giving special attention to being true to the requirements of accuracy and reliability; maintaing, at the same time, an accessible and smooth reading. In which I hope to bring these concepts within the comprehension of a wide readership as possible.

“In this treatise, we wish to present certain concepts, tools and methods that will help the family to establish communication among its members; because next to Allah’s grace, it is communication that a family needs most to have mutual understanding, cohesion and success. And we would be unfair to ourselves if we find our families disintegrating before our very eyes, when there are several books and experiences that should have helped us to protect and make them choice families, happy and strong. I have tried to make this a good addition to what circulates around of literature on child upbringing available to parents. And because this work is addressed to a very wide audience, among whom are the educated and the semi-educated, I have striven to see that my expressions are as simple as possible; even though expressing ideas that have philosophical content in very simple language could do some kind of injustice to their meaning. This is why this attempt of ours is bound to still be imperfect; but sufficient it is that I have tried to aim clearly and closely as best I can.”